{"id":162,"date":"2019-11-03T12:23:52","date_gmt":"2019-11-03T17:23:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/capablecoach.com\/articles\/?p=162"},"modified":"2024-05-20T09:55:06","modified_gmt":"2024-05-20T13:55:06","slug":"i-have-met-the-enemy-and-it-is-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lindabolle.com\/articles\/2019\/11\/03\/i-have-met-the-enemy-and-it-is-me\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Have Met the Enemy and It is Me\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Well,\nnot you in your entirety, but rather an aspect of yourself. And, while it\u2019s\noften characterized as an enemy, it can also be conceptualized as a friend,\nalbeit a misguided friend at times. We often encounter this aspect of ourselves\nwhen we attempt to make meaningful changes in our lives, or even think<\/em> about doing so. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there you are, having established a SMARTEST goal, that is, a goal that\u2019s Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound, Energizing, Self-reinforcing, and Transformative (please see my article, entitled SMART, SMARTER, or SMARTEST: What Kind of Goals Would <\/a>You<\/a><\/em> Like to Achieve? <\/a>for more on this topic). And working together, we\u2019ve put action plans in place to assist you in realizing your goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On\nyour mark, get set, YIKES!!!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You might experience what just showed up as a thought, or series of thoughts, that sound something like: \u201cThis was a stupid idea. What was I thinking? This is never going to work. I may as well go back to doing what I was doing before I got myself into this mess.\u201d Or perhaps you find yourself feeling uncomfortable from an emotional standpoint: apprehension, ominous foreboding, or downright fear. You might also experience physical sensations, such as a pit in your stomach, rapid heart rate, or tension in your jaw. What\u2019s going on?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s going on is resistance, which might come as a complete surprise to you. There you are, ready to embark on your journey to the life of your dreams, and resistance, which can show up in many forms (not unlike Proteus, the Old Man of the Sea<\/a>), has stopped you in your tracks. Why? Because it\u2019s trying to keep you safe. Safe from what? Safe from the unknown. Let\u2019s face it, you\u2019re venturing into uncharted territory here, and doing so is stirring up a primitive part of your brain that\u2019s designed to keep you out of harm\u2019s way at all costs; colloquially referred to as the body\u2019s fight-flight-freeze response, it\u2019s known in coach speak as \u201dthe saboteur.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well-meaning as it is, sooner or later, the saboteur will do its best to sideline you. And any and all attempts to push through the resistance will only make matters worse. So, what do we do when resistance\u2014aka, the saboteur\u2014shows up? First, we acknowledge it. Then, we befriend\u2014yes, befriend<\/em>\u2014it. And, finally, we figure out a way to work with<\/em>, rather than against, it; The Story of Ivan<\/a>, from Lawrence LeShan\u2019s Meditating to Attain a Healthy Body Weight<\/em>, offers an example of how this process might work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether you conceptualize your saboteur as a single, perhaps multifaceted, being\u2014akin to Proteus\u2014or a cast of characters, as presented in Shirzad Chamine\u2019s <\/a>Positive Intelligence<\/a><\/em>, the process for effectively managing these aspects of yourself is the same: (1) acknowledge; (2) befriend; and (3) collaborate (to see a list of my saboteurs, click here<\/a>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And you need not go through this process alone, because I, as your coach, will help you navigate these murky waters, getting you back on track to the life of your dreams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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