A client of mine joined an online accountability group for added support as she worked toward her goals. Each week, members of the group called in to share their successes and discuss any obstacles that they were in the process of overcoming. Everything was going well, until, slowly but surely, one member after another stopped […]
When Poseidon became the god of the sea, he let Oceanus, one of the old sea-gods, and all his many children have part under him in ruling the great ocean and the other waters of the earth. The most interesting of all the children of Oceanus was his son Proteus, whose duty it was to […]
Well, not you in your entirety, but rather an aspect of yourself. And, while it’s often characterized as an enemy, it can also be conceptualized as a friend, albeit a misguided friend at times. We often encounter this aspect of ourselves when we attempt to make meaningful changes in our lives, or even think about […]
Dr. Bollé’s Saboteurs
Following is a list of my saboteurs, those cunning characters whose raison d’être is my safety. Perhaps you will recognize some of these saboteurs as your own. For a detailed discussion of “the saboteurs,” please see my article, entitled “I Have Met the Enemy and It Is Me.” Reasoner – comes up with seemingly plausible […]
The Story of Ivan
This story concerns a man named Ivan who lived in Moscow and was married and had a successful business. One day, in middle life, he began to be haunted by a devil. The devil had hooves and horns and all the usual appurtenances, but no one could see or hear him except Ivan. The devil […]
When it comes to setting goals, chances are you’ve heard about the importance of setting goals that are SMART, that is: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. If you’re able to answer each of the following questions in the affirmative, you’ll know you’ve set a goal that’s SMART: Specific – Does your goal use action […]
Whether you conceptualize your ideal life as integrated—as I do—or balanced, it’s important to keep in mind that, on any given day, each of us has 24 hours in our metaphorical spending account. The good news is, each and every one of us on planet Earth gets 24 hours a day; Mother Nature and Father […]
If the thought of working with a Co-Active Coach® conjures up images of being goaded into action, you’re not alone. While it’s true that there often is a good deal of action that takes place within the context of coaching, sometimes that action consists of designing and building a life that integrates “doing” and “being.” […]
In his book Meditating to Attain a Healthy Body Weight, author Lawrence Leshan offers up two guidelines for attaining—and, I would add, maintaining—a healthy body weight. While the first of these two guidelines focuses on what—or, more precisely, what not—to eat, the second of these guidelines focuses on how to eat. While opinions vary on […]
Following is a list of some of the more frequently asked questions (FAQs) I’ve been asked about the Coaching profession, along with my responses to those questions. 1. What is a life coach? A life coach is a professional who will inspire you to: clarify what matters most to you in life; design a life […]